Sunday in our Christian Education class we talked about winning . I was able to take a mental journey on my own childhood when winning wasn’t on my list of priorities. I was a professional loser. I knew how to lose well and I wasn’t too sad about losing. My older brother, on the other hand had to win. It was a must that he won everything even if it meant that mid way through the process he changed the rules. I was the youngest child and eventually I was the middle child which put me in the place of being the peace maker and if winning made him happy, then it was okay with me that he won.
It was only until I went to school and was around children that were my own age on the same level with me that I knew that I was actually better than I originally thought . But I still used losing as my advantage at home and around the youth group at church . See if you are a chronic loser you can learn how to win when someone older than you decides to , “help,” you win . When you are a chronic loser you never have to swing a bat, run to a base, steal home, you never have to play dodge ball, you never have to really play kick ball , you never have to walk , tie your shoes, fix your own plate , you never have to color and you never have to write . All you have to do is to remain handicap and someone is willing and ready to do it all for you . I was a professional at this but it was not my personality or a part of my genetic DNA to continue in this folly . I was smarter than I let on and one day , all of a sudden I randomly won a game of checkers, I beat them at UNO , they figured out that I could read, write and color. And one day I decided that I could walk and not be carried. And guess what …we were no longer as tight as we once were because now we had to compete. Most of all I knew I could win .
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Because of my new found independence I had to learn how to compete in life. I wish I had learned this more when I was in my adolescent years because my coping skills as an adult would be better but I actually learned how to compete in life while in college. I had been in a few pageants before I entered college and for some reason I wanted to be in the pageant but I hated the judgement, the critiques, and I hated to lose. So I had to learn to enjoy the process and learn what makes me a winner. And from that point forward rather I won or lost it was the process that was the most enjoyable.
Pageants are just like life, you are judged from the moment you walk on the stage. You are judged by the way you walk , the way you talk, the way you listen and the way you comprehend. Most importantly you are judged by how much fun you have during the process. Isn’t that funny that you are actually judged by whether or not you are having fun. Life is a lot like this , sometimes good things don’t happen for us in the time that we need them to happen because we are too busy complaining about our situation instead of getting joy that God has given us this time . Until the peace of mind comes and then enjoying the process that situation that you are facing will be a situation that is unfavorable. The right mind produces the right results.
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In life we compete for everything , there is not often a grand prize with flowers a crown or a parade but the reward is knowing that we have reached a goal , and when you’ve finally reached a goal and it is without kicking and screaming you’ll have time to enjoy the prize. Don’t become the person I was and be the professional loser, instead use the positive side of it , always learn from your mistakes and win.