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You know over my 30 years of life I’ve had my share of run ins with individuals and because of this I’ve learned the art of genuine apology. I feel like an expert in that area because not only have I had to apologize but I’ve had to forgive and let it go.
First of all forgiveness comes from the heart. You don’t necessarily have to speak to that person in order to forgive. Forgiveness is an act of your will and it doesn’t take God showing you the error of your ways to forgive. After all it’s unnatural and unhealthy to hold grudges, right.
Make sure you are ready to forgive, if your apology includes things that you have desired to do to a person… You are not ready to forgive. It’s quite uncomfortable to hear that you have had thoughts of choke slamming me in your apology. As a matter of fact you just made me think bad thoughts of you, I’ve stopped listening and we are in a worse place because now I have to ask for forgiveness for my bad thoughts.
Don’t text, email or inbox an apology. You can actually be in a sincere place but someone can misread your sincerity for sarcasm. I mean have we lost the art of talking. And I can pretend I never got it… Maybe I didn’t.
Getting things right is not the same as forgiveness. I want you to understand that one day you just don’t wake up OK especially when you’ve allowed … Let’s say 6 years go by mad. And even if a suddenly happens it’s a process to get things together and in the proper spirit to exert the right energy to effectively apologize. So when you said you’ve been praying and what not and God told you to forgive. He told you to forgive… Wait on him to work on you to apologize.
If you became mad at someone without their knowledge… You cannot say I forgive you. You say let me apologize for being mad at you. Saying you forgive them is saying that they have done you wrong and they probably needed to apologize to you. Two different things let’s get it right.
Enjoy your day
Purposefully
Tesha
