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I have never felt like I fit into a particular group when it came to friendships. I was too quiet for the loud girls. Too churchy for the cool girls. To prissy for the tomboys. Too bougie for my hood sisters and too hood for my bougie sisters. I was kinda in the middle of things . I like to have fun , crack jokes, throw spontaneous parties, be nosey with the latest gossip, give my opinion , and then laugh about my opinion because it was of course meaningless. I loved shopping, putting on make up for no reason , texting about meme’s that are funny to me on Instagram. I loved big earrings, starbucks coffee, I loved talking about the new remedy I found to clear up the worst sinus infection . I like taking girl trips, going to the movies and then out for Mexican food. Day parties are fun , sun dresses and flip flops and since we have a new president in office I love talking about that with someone else and how much I missed 2008 (LOL) My whole thing is that most of the time I was doing all of this with my Mother . And no, Mom and I are not best friends or are we?
I started my 2017 year off saying … MORE NEW FRIENDS. And to have friends you have to be friendly. So how could I, a working mother and wife with no time on her hands find time to be friendly. Well I have to start returning those phone calls that I missed last year. Maybe I can text my friends first to tell them Happy whatever before they tell me …that’s friendly right? Maybe I will go out to events that people my age would attend . But what do Mom’s and Dad’s in their 30’s do besides things for their kids? Maybe I can start a book club. I loved to read and I know there are other’s that like to read . But who has time to meet? More importantly who has time to read…well I do .
When I met and married I never thought I would be in the house considering life outside of him. I mean when you are single and planning to be married the last thing you think about is friends. On the week ends when we had time we never spent those hours with friends and now after being together 9 years ( I think) I look at him and say , yea I don’t wanna spend Friday with you every week end . LOL
I have not always been friendless for years I shared time and information with someone ,( remember my last blog post when I mention her) . We used to sing together , cry together and laugh together ( per Yolanda Adams 1993) . I thought we would be friends for a lifetime but time and circumstances separated us and now we don’t even consider ourselves friends and unfortunately this was the time that I probably needed a friend the most. I thought we would be like the golden girls one day , Oprah and Gayle , Beyoncé and Kelly , Kim and Lala, Tiny and Shikinah . Ahhhh I digress. We are more like Kandi and Phaedra….well not that bad.
All in all everyone needs friends , preferably more than one . That way if one falls there is another one to catch you . Friendships should last a lifetime, just because you are mad one day don’t mess up the history you have together . Well back to the drawing board.
Still.
Loving Life!
