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I took a leave from my job in my second trimester of pregnancy with my first daughter. My husband and I felt like it would be a good idea that I focused on my new life (we had recently moved).
I took advantage of the time and the money I was still getting from a side job that didn’t require me getting out of bed. For the next five years , I stayed up late every night and slept in late every morning . After all I didn’t have any real obligations to meet. Life was sort of out of control.
In 3 years we had 3 babies. Hours and hours were devoted to cleaning , cooking and washing clothes. We had no social life unless you consider it a social moment in between naps and feedings and changing diapers. I was exhausted daily.
More and more we filled our days with social media and babies. Pretty soon we had lost focus on life and our plans, our goals,our future. I begin to wonder if we still had the same goals, were we on the same page. And I started to wonder what exactly was he finding interesting on these social media platforms so late at night and so early in the morning. Is he seeking attention from others because I’m too tired to wife?
This is so common in so many marriages or relationships, social media has taken over common courtesy, normal conversation, reality. We are captivated in a world with friends that we rarely see in person , so worried about who’s liking your pictures and who just commented on you status. And because it’s so much easier to express your feelings via a text or an inbox message its been very easy to allow emotional affairs to happen. They happen simple and without warning.
Innocent as it may seem, your life in a committed relationship with your spouse is extremely attractive to other people. People seeking to have what you’re giving your spouse. And it’s so much easier because we have direct access to the world and we can talk to everyone.
You know there used to be a time where people met each other at work. Had to use pay phones to call each other, left early to meet up, returned home late. It took some major skill to cheat. But now you don’t even need someone’s phone number to call, you can Facebook call, and video chat. You can text or “sext” each other creating much more of a problem. Once your mind gets into it and it becomes emotional its way worse than if it was just physical.
Husband’s and wives guard your marriages, use wisdom when dealing with the opposite sex. Use wisdom when it comes down to using your social media pages . Manage healthy boundaries and if you cannot handle the temptation get off.
BTW Anthony was not seeking the attention of another woman. He has the gift of text gab, that needed healthy boundaries .
Totally
Tesha
